We live in a time where flaking is at an all time high and it’s becoming harder and harder to find someone who follows through with their word.
For those who are unaware, a flake is someone who makes plans or promises, but fails to follow through.
Often times, a flake will either cancel plans at the very last minute or not show up, giving no warning or reason for not keeping their commitment.
To be clear, a flake is not someone who cancels an arrangement for an actual emergency (e.g., a family crisis).
Instead, a flake is an unreliable person who seldom, if ever, keeps their word.
Many people today wonder why there’s an increase in flaking.
Is it due to poor time-management skills? Is it due to over-committing? Is it due to texting and how it’s made easier to bail on someone?
While these reasons may be the case for some instances of flaking, they don’t get to the root issue of the flake epidemic.
The number one reason for the flake epidemic is that people don’t value each other anymore.
As time goes on, many people have become cold-hearted and dismissive towards one another.
Also, with the help of social media, many people have developed traits of narcissism and only seek relationships for self-serving reasons, such as validation, and not to form a genuine connection.
More so, many people lack empathy and simply don’t care how they treat others.
When someone flakes it also signals that they don’t value your time. Why?
Because people make time for what they value in life.
One thing to know about flaky people is that they often feel that their time is more valuable than anyone else’s, which makes it easy for them to flake.
Sadly, as time goes on and more people become self-centered and less empathetic, the flake rate will continue to rise.
For obvious reasons, being flaked on is highly frustrating and it can be very tempting to call a flake out on their flaky behavior.
If you do, be mindful that flaky people typically don’t respond well to someone calling them out on their behavior.
They’ll often twist the situation and try to make you feel like you’re the one in the wrong for expecting them to keep their word.
Also, be aware that many people’s minds are warped and they will purposely flake just to “test you” to see how’ll you respond.
This practice is common particularly in the beginning stages of dating.
To save yourself the headache of dealing with a flake, it’s best to just cut contact.
The person who flakes may or may not want to make amends.
No matter what happens, don’t allow someone to disrespect you or your time.
Your main focus should be to protect your peace of mind and surround yourself with people who genuinely values you.
Time is your most valuable asset, so the last thing you want to do is waste it.
If a person truly wants to be in your life, it will be evident through their actions.
“Hey, I know we were planning to get together in a couple of minutes, but something came up and I can’t make it. Sorry.” ~ A Flake